How To Love Yourself After A Breakup - Too Much Self-Reflection Might Be Bad For You

Love is precious and powerful. Being in love can make you feel invincible. However, when the person you are with breaks your heart, you feel vulnerable, worthless and inadequate. When it comes to love, our rational mind isn't running the show. You find yourself wondering if things could have been different if you have changed to the person your partner wanted you to be. You are lost, sad and lonely.

As hard as a breakup can be, the real tragedy is we neglected the most important relationship - the one we have with ourselves. We have attached too much validation and worth to our partners. When they leave, we are lack of those important feelings. Recently, there are so many friends experience similar situations.

Here are some guides on how to raise your self-esteem after the heartache. 

- Realize you are not the many things that your ex said about you.
     When people are mad, they say hurtful things.  But they are not always true. I have seen people make up break up excuses just to feel less guilty.

- Service can be a great self-esteem booster. When you give of yourself without any expectation of return, you begin to feel lifted up. Think about ways to connect with others and direct your positive energy outward. Doing this will put you in a more compassionate and kind space, both of which help boost your self-worth.

-  Don't close your heart. A failed relationship may makes you want to close your heart again. Understand anybody who tells you you will never be able to love the same way again is wrong, these are just illusions. 

-  A failed relationship does not mean you are not an awesome person. It can simply indicate you and your partner are not good match. He is not the ONE for you. Don't underestimate yourself.